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A Lady and Her Husband

by Amber Reeves
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ISBN 9781910263068

Amber Reeves (Mrs Blanco White since 1909) had been one of the young women visiting the working-class families in Lambeth when her mother Maud Pember Reeves was writing Round about a Pound a Week, PB No.79. It is thus unsurprising that her novel focuses on the social issues that had been preoccupying her mother. However, it is also a novel about marriage (hence its title): in a deeply sophisticated way it describes a middle-aged couple who love each other navigating round the rock of their differences.

The plot is straightforward but unusual. Mrs Heyham’s daughter leaves home to get married and suddenly she is left with no family and nothing to do (the servants ensure that she does no work in the house, for it would be another 25 years before middle-class women realised they could ‘run your home without help’ PB No. 62). The daughter, who is young and modern in outlook, suggests that her mother takes more interest in the family business. As Ford Madox Ford (author of Parade’s End and The Good Soldier) wrote in his review of this ‘very clever and very observant book’ in March 1914: ‘It shows us the household of a great employer of labour, a constructive genius in the realms of tea shops. He is honest, buoyant, persevering, unbeatable, and he gives the public excellent poached eggs, unrivalled cups of tea, pure butter, and wholesome bread.

‘His wife is just a normal woman, leading a sheltered life under the protection of her husband’s comfortable fortune. But when she finds an occupation in the study of her husband’s female employees in the tea shops, she discovers that these poor creatures are wretchedly underpaid; that they have to stand for too long hours; that they have to eat their meals in damp cupboards.’

‘The most curious and interesting section of this novel,’ Margaret Drabble has written in a piece about Amber Reeves, ‘comes towards the end, when Mary Heyham leaves home secretly in order to think things through. With a sense that “her intellectual life was only beginning” she takes a small flat in Chelsea, where, for a week, she battles with such works as The Shareholder’s Guide to Company Law. And she is very happy in her flat, where nobody can find her. Far from being frightened by the solitude, she rejoices in it.’ (Indeed, Samantha Ellis in her Persephone Preface wonders whether this part of the novel might have had some influence on A Room of One’s Own.)

A Lady and Her Husband is extremely readable with a moving and insightful portrait of a marriage at the heart of it.  Nor is the insight surprising, coming from ‘a girl of brilliant and precocious promise’ by HG Wells (his real words this time). Famously, he wrote about her in 1909 as the eponymous Ann Veronica in which he portrayed a 21-year-old bluestocking who studies biology, gets swept up in politics, but then at the end marries her older teacher, telling him; ‘“I say, you are rather the master, you know.”’

HG Wells and Amber Reeves had had a serious affair while she was still a Cambridge undergraduate, and he encouraged her writing. Yet, as Samantha Ellis writes, in the novel, Amber Reeves ‘is also saying that no one has to be buried by marriage. She is proving Wells wrong. He couldn’t let go of his idea that he was the most exciting thing ever to happen to Amber. A Lady and Her Husband shows that no one subsides for good. Mary Heyham remembers who she is, becomes brave again, and curious, and humane... The book is a quiet but brilliant retort to Ann Veronica.’


Taken from "Cracow', a jacquard woven wool and linen by Roger Fry for the Omega Workshop 1913 © V and A Images

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Emma Hughes, ‘Country Life’

‘A Lady and Her Husband’ is unashamedly political – when it came out, The Spectator sniffed that it was full of passages "which might have appeared in the most advanced Socialistic newspaper over the signature of a militant suffragette". Political it may be, but this is no clunking treatise on industrial relations. It turned out, to my surprise, to be a page-turner as witty and spiky as I imagine its author to have been – think Erica Jong in a hobble skirt.

Rebecca Wallersteiner, 'The Lady’

The uncompromising and brilliant Cambridge graduate Amber Reeves wrote this beautifully written, pioneering feminist novel in 1914. It explores the compromises women make to keep their men and how they can effectively challenge them. This entertaining book is particularly topical right now with our government's recent introduction of the new National Living Wage.

The Book Satchel

Amber Reeves is very clever at pointing out things function in the real world. Notice how the title says ‘A Lady and her Husband’ and not the other way round: the heroine realises that there are two different worlds, that of a man and that of a woman. This said, the novel is in no way a dreary read about business politics and class struggles. There are hints of sarcasm and humour throughout and the writing has a steady pace and offers a mix of political and feminist ideas mixed with the trivialities of a normal family. I found Amber Reeves to be a charming writer and the book to be a brilliant one on British social reform. When I read the ending, I must say I was a bit surprised. I was hoping for a feminist cliché ending. However I was able to appreciate the thought process of the characters and arrived at the conclusion that it was a good ending indeed.

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